What’s Your Tolerance for Wind? (Uranus energy)

This is a part of a series: love in the zodiac. Today I’m here to share about another sacred teacher in love, Uranus. I often describe Uranus in transit or in aspect as a wind storm. Wind is very important - it cleans out, moves water (clouds!), spreads seeds, moves energy. But the question arises - what is your tolerance for wind?! (Mine is very low hahahaha!)

Uranus is the original “disruptor,” despite tech lords trying to claim that title. Uranus is not about settling. It’s about innovating, breaking from tradition. Don’t tell me what to do! is one of Uranus’s refrains.

When Uranus is in aspect with your Moon, Venus or Mars, you often feel a tension between your sense of self, independence, freedom, and your need to connect. It can feel like and/or you can be labeled as “self-sabatoging,” which sometimes can be true, but can also be the culture’s norms, around romantic relationships especially, just not fitting with your nature. Usually both! Anyone with Uranus in aspect to these planets is reflexively resistant to the status quo, whatever that is in your place and time. Their love language is extending freedom to their beloveds and they usually insist on it in return.

For example, I have Uranus square my Moon, and once I told an ex-partner, as we were making plans for a long trip, I am going there by car, let me know if you want to join me or if you want to get there by train or another way, and we can meet there.

They said, Are you breaking up with me? But in my mind I was offering them the freedom I might have wanted, to not feel like because were in a certain type of relationship, we would have to travel somewhere together.

This was an earlier expression of this energy, I would say it shows up differently now (Maybe?! Ask my family hahahaha), but the main point is contributing to anyone feeling obligated is the worst offense for Uranian people.

Unless it’s about the group! There’s a lot of duty involved with keeping track of everyone, at mass scale. Uranus is about the group, the big scale, how is everyone doing, is everything equal?! — are among their concerns. So this is another way that people in relationships with them can feel like there’s a coldness to them. Sometimes it’s coldness and or keeping score, and sometimes it’s a dedication to justice that feels supportive.

These Uranus aspects can show up as a tension within oneself, between a longing to connect and a longing to be untethered. Sometimes they show up as a tension with others, relationship patterns where you are the “avoidantly attached” and someone else is the “anxiously attached” if that language is familiar to you. And often, because Uranus will not be pinned down, contained by stereotypical description, these people vacillate between both. They can be annoyed when they have needs and desires—ugh, so personal!—and so at times pretend they don’t, even to themselves, because it is not equal or fair to prioritize needs or desires of one over the other. But pretending these needs or desires away just causes the Uranian human to try to control the group’s justice and neglect their own personhood, which usually contributes to isolation and suffering for all.

Support for those with Uranus in aspect to these emotional planets arrives in part through simply aging. And bringing consciousness, through whatever modality, to the unconscious impulse to rebel. Uranus, like all of these magic energy teachers with planet names, is a really important influence that we need collectively to keep things from getting dusty and musty and outdated, but it can detract from one’s evolution when out of balance—seeds can’t grow roots if the wind never stops!

So keeping close and loving, compassionate tabs on your actual needs and desires, even if they are not always met, (and they won’t be!) is one way to come down to earth as the individual human that one is, as much as the Uranus influence might prefer it to be otherwise!

When this Uranus energy is supported by a spiritual purpose or context, it is all about loving on a universal scale, excluding no one. When it’s totally untethered, it can just be argumentative or rebellious in the fuck-it’s / debate-for-it’s-own-sake purgatory.

This is why, with all that astrology can name for us, it does not give us our own philosophical orientation, a spiritual purpose, a ground. It can lead us in directions where we might be most likely to find those things! But it cannot do that work for us. So I’m trying to describe a maturing version of the energy, versus an immature version. Or the resourced version, versus the under-resourced version, which is perhaps the most accurate way to describe how we vacillate between those all of the time depending on how resourced we are at any given time in our lives.

Uranus offers a divine trickster energy, like: let’s take nothing for granted here. That’s how it can best help us in our endeavors to love.