Preparation

Yes! You are here! Soon we will meet. What an honor it is to share time with you in this way. Here are some tips and an assignment for maximizing the benefits of your session. (If we have already met, feel free to answer the questions below again, or just write to me with any relevant thoughts before our session.)

Before your session, make space

for this. Give yourself time to prepare. Ideally at least an hour. Come with paper and pen to take notes if you like. You are welcome to record the session, but you have to remember to ask me for permission to do so on zoom before we meet, because I almost always forget to offer. Turn off your other devices if possible. Take some time to breathe before. Eat a snack if you are hungry. Bring some water or tea, a nourishing drink. Make sure you’ll be in a place that has good service/internet. Find a place that you’ll be uninterrupted for an hour. And where your body can be as comfortable as possible.

This is, more than anything, a gift to yourself, a retreat into your inner life. Treat it as such.

Answer these questions

sending them to me at least 24 hours before our session at existingtogether@gmail.com. This is for your reflection. I don’t share these answers with anyone. I receive them, as a neutral, safe recipient, for you to send your reflections off to. This is not required, but highly recommended. Being asked questions is an underrated, important form of healing. A major part of my job, and the benefit of this session, is you, being listened to, deeply. Save your answers. Make a plan to look back at them after a planned interval to see what it feels like to see what you wrote.

Feel free to use these questions as a jumping off point for writing about anything that is relevant for you right now.

>> Questions for first-time reading

>> Questions for return client reading

>> Questions for couples reading

>> Questions for parent/child reading

After your session, make space

to process, to let it all land, to cry if needed. To reflect and emphasize any notes you want to remember, etc. Try to avoid using your phone or any other distractions for an hour or so, as long as you can. Looking at your life from a soul perspective, from a deep time perspective, is a big thing. It deserves some space, and the riches of your own insight will land more fully if you give it space. If you process well verbally, include talking to a receptive friend as part of your ‘after’ session.

Make a plan of 1-3 things you want to take with you, fold into a practice, that you gathered from the reading. This helps integrate. Give yourself a follow up check in date. Schedule another reading if applicable. Follow up with yourself, as an act of self-love, as an act of love for our collective awakening and presence.

Thank you for participating. Thank you for sharing the planet with me.

• Describe your emotional terrain. How do you emotionally respond?

• Describe your mental terrain. How is your mind functioning? How would you like it to function?

• Describe your spiritual life, or how you relate to the phrase "spiritual life." Do you feel satisfied with this aspect of your life? Why or why not?

• Describe how your body feels lately.

• What feels easy?

• What feels hard? Where do you feel stuck / stagnant?

• What do you want the most?

• Describe your ideal life in one year, five years, ten years.

If you still have your answers from your last session, go back and re-read them. Observe what has changed and what hasn’t, and write that down. Answer the questions again if that feels generative to you. Consider also answering the following questions and sending responses to me.

• What do you remember as the most useful thing you got from your last reading?

• List 1-3 topics / questions you’d like to gain insight on during this reading.

• How long have you been in this relationship?

• What is the nature of the relationship? romantic, work, co-parent, etc.

• Where and when do you feel best with this person?

• How does this relationship challenge you?

• Describe the person you want to be in this relationship.

• What obstacles appear between you and the person you want to be? 

• When and where do you feel best with your child?

• Which of your child’s behaviors do you struggle with the most?

• Describe the kind of parent you want to be with your child.

• What obstacles appear in the way of you being the parent you want to be? 

QUESTIONS FOR RELATIONSHIP DEEP DIVE

• What does it feel like to anticipate this reading? How does it feel in your body?

• What does it feel like to imagine your dream relationship? What happens in your body when you read that question?

• Describe your dream relationship. What does it feel like in your body?

• Describe a moment or day when you were in a dream relationship, or as close to it as you have ever come. What did it feel like in your body?

• What appears to be the obstacles to your dream relationship?

• Who are you?